CHRIS IS SLEEPING AROUND?!?!?!?!??!

That is not what I ment...I ment I spent a hella lot of time w/ him and shrugged off hanging out with my fri...oh forget it...I'm sorry I even try...I'm sorry I fucked you over Chris...I'm sorry I've waisted everyone's time...I'M sorry...:cry: Maybe I am a slut for hurting a good man...but damn it it's just my life right?...I only get one...

Relax, everyone makes mistakes but the point is to learn from them. Now maybe this was or was not a mistake. Who's really to say besides you? Whatever you think you should do, is what you should do. Don't spend your life going around trying to please other people. Do what you think is right and know that some people will disagree with you, don't worry about them. This is your life, so enjoy it and do what you damn well please.

Tsk.. I don't like where this is going, so I suggest everyone shutup and instead focus on something different.

Like this.

Hey, if you two are meant to be together, you will see it, eventually. Everyone needs a little variety now and then. It's good for really finding out who you are, and what you want.

I don't get it?

Neither does Penguin.

No shock there. Now knock it off with the Klan images -_-

You mean mjordan?

Wow...That's just what I've been trying to say...I just couldn't ever get it out :)

Leaving someone you love for your own future, either means you don't love them or your just plain selfish.

There are different kinds of love though. Brother/siterly love, being IN love, that of a strong friendship. It may turn out that they are better as friends than they were as a couple.

no being apart is good, it will either make you guys bond more together or you guys not meant for eachother.

...Wow..wow...fuck you verymuch there...so I should (wow I shouldn't be writing this where Chris can see it) but you think I should give up my life and happyness so that I can make someone else happy?? Cause that makes you selfish...

I just happen to have had this happen to me (Only a 22 month relationship though), and my roommate is actually figuring this out now as well (His was/is (?) a 5 year, and about 2 months now relationship), so I have plenty of experience in this area. :)

Sorry.....

I had my mouth full of Mountain Dew when I clicked that, you asshole! Now it's all over my monitor!

Bob: I already gave you my opinion, but I'll reiterate it here. Pain doesn't last forever, and the only real thing you can do is wait and not give up on yourself. Don't drink yourself stupid over this, don't start smoking crack and don't give up on who you are, because you are not where the complication lies. This is not about Jinx breaking up with you, it's about Jinx figuring out her own issues. I know that's not much of a consolation, but it's something, right? Don't try and re-arrange what you are at your core because you think you are flawed and that your flaws are the cause of this.

Jinx: Everybody needs to do this at some point, right? At a certain point, you have to break things down in order to continue building. The same applies to a person's life. In order to progress, you've got to demolish some things to continue moving forward. That's what this point in your life is meant for, and this is just a symptom of that. You're not in the wrong for doing so, because it's something you needed to do for yourself. There's nothing selfish in that, because if you constantly focus on what other people need, you tend to tangle your own shit up in the process. I know from far too much experience in that regard. You do what you need to do for yourself first, then you worry about other people's needs. It's like the lifeguard procedures for when someone is drowning under a bridge. If the tide tries to smash you into a pillar, you use the victim's body as a shield, because if you get fucked up, you're both shit out of luck.

That's about all I've got to say in regard to this matter. Bob, don't tear yourself up over this. It's gotta hurt like hell, but the pain won't continue indefinitely. Jinx, don't tear yourself up over this. You need to do it, because if you don't, and you two get smashed into a pillar, you're both going to get hurt a lot worse than you are now.

Now I'm going to clean this fucking monitor, you son of a bitch, Grav!

Wow that was...amazing...I couldn't have said it better myself...thanks these posts really help...:)

You say youn don't want to be in a relationship because then you will not fully enjoy the next 4 years then you are just saying that you will be doing things which would be considered cheating on a relationship. Im not saying you will go out there and have sex but you get my point, you can't have fun if your attached to somebody because they'll make a big deal of it.