Smoking, childcare, and ruining one's relationship with a threesome
 

Strange?

I smoked "regularly" for a while...quit for obvious reasons. But if i had the money i would def. love to get everything done for an evening and have myself a bowl....but not gonna happen. I'm not against it because i've done it and functioned normally....but I think that some people (MY BROTHER....) can't handle it.

Before I started smoking, I would freak out when kaneda would. or @ least when i found out about it. lol.

You dissapoint me.

why? because i used to be a pot head?

Right, and before i got pgt, i smoked at least 3 times a day. Now i smoke RARELY if it comes to me and everything i need to worry about is taken care of. (babys asleep, house is clean, its a friday or saturday night)

You shouldn't smoke pot around children period, imo. Even if they're in the other room.

If she's in her room asleep and I'm on the patio and kanedas home or w.e. I don't think there's a problem with it. I mean, if i were doing it i the house that would be different, because it would be messing with her air quality. Also when she's with my mom and I'm out or w.e (not like its happened more than twice since she's been born) I dont think there's a problem

When I've smoked/drank since, afterward I'll pump and disgard that milk. Herbs do make your milk not as productive also. Good thing I'm poor.

It's not something that 'pumping' will solve... ugh.

From what I've read you shouldn't nurse or give them milk that's been pumped until after 2 hours of smoking....and longer than that if drinking.

I pray you have your child taken by social services. For the childs sake, of course.

that's bullshit. like i said, maybe twice since ive had her. And child services is the worst thing that can happen to children!!

That depends entirely on the enviroment the child lives in.

As Grav said. No pot. No alcohol. Period.

I'm with Grav and Jessifer here.

As I've told klo in private, I don't think there's a problem with her smoking pot as long as the baby is with someone else. If the baby is under her care, she should not be under the influence of any sort of drugs at all, because if something were to happen and the baby had to go to the hospital, klo could lose her baby, and in that situation she probably should.

As for nursing while drinking/smoking, there's not enough evidence to prove either side is right, so it's best just to not risk it. It's not worth putting your baby's health in danger just to have a little fun. Wait until you're done nursing and then have fun, it's juts not worth it unless you know for sure somehow that it won't harm the baby, and as far as I know there's nothing to prove that.

It matters not whether you win or lose; what matters is whether I win or lose.

I'm with Jess here. Getting high on your own is fine, but no smoking around the baby.

So, who got banned and made this all confusing to anyone attempting to scroll through threads?

I split it from the thread for judges for the marijuana debate, if that helps?

I see.

Once you're a mom, imo, you should give all that shit up. You're not just living your life for you anymore. You're living your life for your child(ren) too. If it 's something you need to maintain your sanity, then sure, but otherwise if you are to tell them not to then you are a hypocrite (that's assuming you wouldn't want your child to smoke pot also).

Really, there IS a time and place, but children should always come first.

If she's got someone to take care of her children for a night (like her mom) and she's not nursing, then I don't see why she can't indulge just a little. Otherwise, I'm on your side.

You're a cold-hearted bitch. Don't preach when you lack experience.

Thanatos only says this because he is crushing!

Ohhh snaps.

And as far as smoking pot ...sure, you can do it. But if you're going to tell your child never to then you're a fucking hypocrite and that's a confusing thing to a kid =P. "Oh, it's okay for you but I really shouldn't because it's bad? Wtf?"

Crushing your balls under my shoe, yes.

I agree with this since it was the worst thing that happened to me.

But I agree with Grav on the no smoking or drinking one just because you might ruin her antibody quality with milk thats been tampered with from the pot or beer.

And can't you get nurses who do this for you? They were made for people who occasionally drink or smoke after pregnancy. My mother smoked after my birth, but she had someone else nurse me so I got someone elses milk. Try asking or looking around for a nurse if you really get cravings but don't want to hurt the babies antibody intake. She was able to afford the nurse working in a mall.

FYI The baby doesn't breast feed from the nurse. The baby drinks the milk from a bottle. So it's not like a 200 dollar an hour job or anything it's just a person agreeing to supply you with breast milk and they go through rigorous screening before they pump milk.

Dear God that would be an awkward job interview. "So ...uhm ...do you have any references? Okay now ...squeeze those babies into this cup so we can test your productivity ;)."

God, that reply was so pathetic I just felt deflated when I read it. Way to lower the fucking bar.

That's oddly a recognized fetish, so I wouldn't get used to using that one. ;)

Thanatos has his girlfriend crush his balls while dressed like a cat.

Trudat. What a freak.

Oh man, that's hot.


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It matters not whether you win or lose; what matters is whether I win or lose.

No, It doesn't make a difference. I've seen it where they come take kids for basically nothing, but then in another situation a child is being abused/neglected and it takes them two freakin years to help them. Then when they are helped they are put into a foster home, and thats such a awful situation!! Fuck.


And whats all this "grow up" like i said, I DO have a great job, and we do have a very nice home. She is very well taken care of. They say you can have drinks when your nursing ( a limited amount but still)....and imo i think that drinking is more harmful to the body than smoking.

AND who said we were going to preach against it? I mean, when she's 12 we obviously don't want her smoking...but she's going to someday (most likely) so why would we want her to be secretave about it. We're not sure how we're going to go about it...but we do have like 16 years to think this through. By then it will probably be legal anyways, then nobody will have a problem with it.

So, for the first 12+ years of her life you're going to be a hypocrite? Is that the sort of example people want to set for their children? I know I see it all the time. Hell, it's not uncommon. And the legality of something doesn't always make it right (although marijuana being legalized in the next 16 years is something no one can be sure of).

You've got a job, a nice home, etc. but using illegal drugs and having large enough quantities can cost you those things and your child. Is it worth it for a few thrills? And have you consulted a physician and asked if it was okay? Please God don't go off heresay.

OK, we don't have any and when we did it was like a gram. Before we even moved here. I'm sorry, but i dont think we'll be being hypocritic because its not like she's going to be like "is it ok to smoke weed?" And we're not going to tell her "NEVER SMOKE WEED!!!!" I mean, that's what my parents did, and i just grew farther away from them when i started smoking.

Children have a bad, bad habit of "monkey see, monkey do", parents always need to keep that in mind, as well as the fact that children will also extrapolate what they want to believe from such actions. Showing them that you are "allowed to break the rules" only encourages them to do the same, and not just in the sense that you were breaking them.

Something to consider for the future.

When it comes to personal experience, yes. I do lack in that area. However, my cousin, is only two months younger than myself and has two children under the age of two. She drinks on a rather regular basis, and smokes pot on occasion as well. And when she throws her parties and I'm around, while the boys are asleep of course, who do you think watches over the boys? Either myself or one of her friends. The only two people sober enough to watch the children when they wake up at around midnight, which they do to be changed and fed.

I don't get drunk in the presence of my cousin for just that reason. Hell...I have yet to get drunk for reasons similar to that. I prefer being aware of what's going on around me.

After taking care of her children so many times, I think I'm a bit more prepared for when I do have children of my own. Watching her, and others around me for that matter, has given me guidelines to follow when I finally do decide to have children.

And as for myself not reporting her...she's my cousin. I love her. And lately she has been trying to get herself straight. She hasn't smoked pot in months, and her drinking has gone down quite a bit.

Well, as far as whether it's safe or not, I've come to the conclusion that it probably isn't. At least, it's not MORE safe than alcohol, it's most likely much less safe than alcohol. Alcohol stays in your system, what, a few hours? Well THC stays in your body for up to 2 months sometimes, usually less than 1 month though. THC gets stored in the fat in your body, and guess where a lot of a woman's fat is located? In her breasts, with them being almost entirely fatty tissue.

We may not know for sure, but common sense is telling me that it's probably not a good idea. What's so bad about waiting a few months until you stop nursing and then doing it? Your daughter should come before pot, no matter what.

I would hope so.

Just wait a bit then you can go back to doing things. Just remember that you are always going to be her "hero" no matter what. Set a good example. Im not saying this to put you down, its just my piece of advice.