Significant Others
 

Well, I started dating this chick about 3 weeks ago now, but I don't know how into her I am. She isn't the prettiest chick I've dated, but there was something that was different about her that drew me towards her. I have a great time with her, and only a few of my friends have met her, but they haven't said anything to me about her yet, which I hate... I always doubt myself when I start seeing someone, no idea why, but I do.

Anyway, I was in class tonight, and not paying attention. Whenever I have a lot on my mind, I can't concentrate, so I literally just write down whatever thoughts come to my mind. This is what I wrote tonight. What do you think it means?


Am I settling? Have I been looking in the wrong places all along? Do I really care about this girl? Why do I care what others think? Why am I mad that no one has commented about her? Do I really want to know what they think? Or am I just happy with my own thoughts and feelings? Am I doing this for the right reasons? Does it really even matter at this stage in my life? What if I'm truely uncertain? I think I'm happy, but how can I be certain? Will this change in the future? Is there even a future? Should I look for a sign? Or just with my gut instinct? Why not just go with it? Who says I will be the one that hurts her? What if she hurts me? Is me writing all this mean I really like her? Or am I just crazy? I wonder how long this will last? Will my friends like her? Will my parents like her? Does it matter? Or course my parents' opinion matters... Does my friends? Is it bad not hearing anything? Would I rather hear a sincere answer that I don't like or a fake one? Are my standards too high? Should they be? Is it just my ego that wants reassurance? Why isn't her thoughts and actions toward me all that really matter? Why doesn't the way I feel around her make all the difference? Does this mean its not going to last? Did I ask that already? Am I just playing a semantics game with myself? I must stop. Now.

I think it means you think too much. You're trying to think of everything that could happen, or everyones reaction to it all, and I'm sure it's driving you insain.

Just throw all that shit out the window.

You guys are dating for a reason. you both find something in each other. you're happy and thats all that matters.

Do not even get me -started.- I have written a fucking college thesis on sociology and interaction between peoples of the opposite sex lately. Right now I'm conducting what could be called an experiment.

Anyway, if you listen to The Master Ladder then you're probably in doubt because you've moved a notch or two down the ladder in your own mind.

However, I set out to defy the ladder. Can two people of the opposite sex, one who was/is attracted to the other, sincerely love and trust each other without being 'in love?' Society says no.

Titusfied... your my boy We'll sit down and have a heart to heart about this... I'm the master of all women so i'm sure i can help you

Society is fucking wrong, because I do it. This girl I was madly infatuated ("in love") with Freshman year of HS is now my best friend. I still find the person attractive... but if she were to come into my house, take off her clothes, and say "do me"... I wouldn't. I value the friendship more than that. I absolutely detest theories that center around all men acting on basic animal instict. It is clear to me that some humans are capable of transcending mortality in the sense of animalistic passion.

Oh and Titus, I am in a very similar situation. There is this girl who is very unique and cool as hell... but the last girl I dated was like a 10... and this girl isnt. She's moderate. Not super hot. At your level I think you should go for it... but at my level (highschool), relationships are worthless. So i dunno.

Pussy... I'd be all over that bitch.

Hah... the problem was she didn't like me... and now she feels the same way as I do. I see her as attractive, but I wouldn't do that even if given the opportunity.

Hah, there are girls in my life that I "think" of as a sister; as in I'd do anything for her and anything to protect her, but that doens't mean I wouldn't bone the shit out of her either! You must be outta yo mind if you wouldn't do your hot friends! ;)

Anyway, I'm just gonna say fuck it. If I'm happy, who cares what others think... For now at least. I'm just worried that I'm gonna stay with her for a while then realize I don't really like her when she falls in love with me, then I'm gonna break her heart. I hate when that shit happens, which is why I always think about these types of things too much.

Haha... Well... What I should say, is it's not something that is on my mind... I would obviously. But it's not what motivates me.

LIES!!! All LIES!!!

I see what Penny is saying about the best friends thing. It would make everything so awkward, or great. So many chances/risks in love.

Friends become lovers sometimes.
Lovers become friends never.

Hmmm.. how troublesome women are.

true dat graviton true dat

My advice on love matters is always do what your heart is telling you you should do.

For example: My ex-girlfriend(the one of 3+ years) and her new boyfriend broke up recently. She was feeling sad, and the first person she came to was me, because we've always been close in a friendly way as well. Now she's saying she might want to get back together with me in the summer depending on how things are going. I know I'm not 2nd in line to the other guy, I've always been first, just circumstances caused us to breakup before and it was my fault. Anyway, my mind is telling me not to get back together with her because then I'm just letting her get away with replacing me with another guy who ended up being disrespectful to her(which I'm not particularly happy about.) But my heart, it's telling me to welcome her back and act like nothing happened. I love her too much to care about anything else.

I think women should be excommunicated from the church of "Citizenship". Then tied up only for sex. Hell, we'll even learn to clean.

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This aint' no middle-ages, newb! GET YOUR ASS OUT OF MY BYZENTIEN EMPIRE!!

:)

Actually Sue is good with women but he is more of the best friend kind of guy his relationships do not ever go anywhere but he has the confidence of many girls at our school just because he listens to what they say.

haha yeah tidus knows me all too well...