stupid boyfriend troubles
 

i know its stupid and trivial and not that important but i just need to vent a little.

my boyfriend is getting rediculous. he flirts with other girls in my face, and ignores me for them. he promised me he would talk to the girl he broke up with me for, and i found out recently that hes been talking to her for 4 months. he constantly lies and breaks promises and makes me cry on an almost daily basis. he also yells at me when we get in fights and it scares me.(those who know me know how hard it is to scare me)
i can't break up with him though. im miserable with him but im worse without him. like he promised hed call me today cause hes upstate for 10 days and he didnt. im not mad cause he lied, im mad that i didnt get to talk to him.
its so messed up. i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him and it hasnt worked its just pissed him off. what should i do?

If you're worse without him, then you need to work on some things. He sounds like a jerk to me. You probably deserve better, but I don't know you.

Yeah, how exactly does he "flirt" in front of you? What does he say, who to?

It doesn't sound like he really cares about you too much, so maybe it's time for you to move on. You don't need to rely on anybody but yourself.

From the sound of things, at best, he's just apathetic about your relationship. At worst, he's cheating on you right now. Get rid of that douchebag.

Why the fuck do girls date douchebags?

She hasn't mentioned it but he dumped her for a girl he met on a cruise months ago. Then they got back together like 2 weeks later. He's a fucking asshole and you could do a lot better, Katie. A lot of guys want to be hooked up with a gymnist =P.

You know her personally? .. Idk though, douchebags seem to have this appeal, being mean and disrespecting women seems to turn them on even more.

We used to talk on aim a lot about that time.

Girl, I know how you feel. It is hard to break it off sometimes, but you can't let yourself get hurt like that. While he is having his fun by using and hurting you, that is all you are getting. This may seem kinda bad, but if this is what it takes, find someone else first, someone who will treat you good, then leave. You don't even have to cheat or anything. I finally had to do that to get away from my ex-husband. I hated the fact that it finally took that, but I got tired of the whole "I am leaving for good this time" thing, then just getting back with him a week or two later just to be treated like shit again.

yea, and for the last time its gymnAst with an A not a I!!!!

thanks for the advice. like now is a good day, hes all nice and shit now and feeling bad cause i was crying and thats what makes it so confuseinggggggg. i dont want to leave him. i know it would take forever to get ovre him and find another guy. blehhh ill just try talking ot him again

Well, good luck with that. Guys don't tend to listen no matter how many times you tell them they are fuck ups. Hopefully, he will get it through his head though.

That may be true, but girls are just as bad for not leaving and doing their own thing. I mean the guy has to have something wrong with the girl USUALLY before he goes out and finds something better, not that i'm condoaning it or anything, but that's how it is.

I beleive this.. Their must be somthing your doing to make him treat you like this.. Obviously he still cares hes still with you. Its just hes treating you this way cause of somthing you piss him off about possibly. It relates to me and my gf. She seems to make everything my blame... Like always my fault... But then she cries and tells me how much she loves me and shit.

Or he's just emotionally/physically abusive or a confused little kid.

I keep asking myself this question and there's no logical answer. Girls must have some crippled brain cells or something.

Listen to this shit:
The girl I'm talking to now has been in at least 2 abusive relationships where the guy has treated her like complete shit. She "tells me" that she and this dude are done. He broke her fucking foot like 2 months ago. She's going to have surgery on it because it won't heal correctly. Yet she still talks to him. No matter how many times he does something bad to her, she goes crawling back to him.

This happened the last time we started talking. We dated for a month and then she broke up with me for the abusive dude. We're talking again and I can see very similar occurences that point towards her going back to him. I don't understand. I've never cussed at this girl, I've bought her shit, been there for her whenever she needed it, etc etc.

Girls are fucking insane.

Owned. She took a guy that abusers her over you =D.

When she says she wants to break up just slap her in the face and she'll stay with you, that's the JOCK way out of things..

well cause abusive guys arent abusive from the beginning. they're nice, and treat us nice at first. then when we love them, it gets bad. trust me i know.

yes Girls are fucking insane with that shit... I love Hunsy more than anything but I have seen her do stupid shit like that too... forgiving someone that will abuse her and other such things and than chase him down and beg him to stay with her when he is trying to leave...

Now she isn't perfect I'm not saying that, but seriously, in atleast her case she was more a victim than him...

Also, Guys are just as bad, they continualy go back to the girls that just want there money, or screw around on them and the guys just take her back and take her back regardless (what I believe makes alot of men the assholes they are today) So both sides are guilty of treating the other like shit and blameing it souly(sorry agian my spelling sux) on the other sex. No offence to the girl that started this thread but she prolly has bad karma from a past relationship or he treats her this way cause of some bitch he used to be with...

I love when I realize how fucked humanity is.:)

The problem is simple.
HuMans are not monogamous by nature.
It's you and societys fault for shoving it down our throats.
Why do you think it's soo simple to create babys?
If we were meant to spend our whole lives with one person, or years even, then the reproduction process would take a year just to inseminate.