Sounds like you're both pretty screwed up to me.

BTW, if you have him forced to pay child support, that doesn't give him "rights" to her. Just because he's helping pay for things, that doesn't mean he has rights to see her, that just means he's doing what is his responsibility. My father had to pay child support all the way until I was 18 and he never even had partial custody of me. I would see him like 1-2 times a year and that was only because I wanted to.