you and your girlfriend have been going out for 1year 5months (today). Your parents recently found out you and her are having sex (we are 17 years old). So to retaliate our parents basically ground us indefinetly from eachothers homes, because neither parent wants to take responsibility for allow us the chance of doing it, they say..."no your not comming here, im not baby sitting you". your girlfriends parents wont let her go anywhere unless she has condoms and is on bc. Even after she is on those her parents will still not let her out (i know her stepdad to well). so basically we get to see eachother about 3hours a day at school. and when schools done probably not at all.
so what would you guys do in this situation? would you try and build trust, be rebelious? break up? what...?
Build trust. Let them know you are responsible enough to hang out with her. You can always say that you are going to a friends house and meet her there and just chill at that friends house together.
problem is how, like they wont allow us to build trust. to me like the only way to build trust that we wont have sex is to let us be together and see what happens, i mean...i dont see how sitting at home without her, listening to them and doing all my chours (sp) will make me wanna be less sexual.
id love to gain there trust again but, i just dont know how
Just wondering, were you using protection when you were having sex? A lot of parents will not flip AS much if they hear you were protected. If you were protected, other then promising not to have sex, I don't think you can do anything to build up their trust.
If you're 17 now, it wont be long before you're 18. Get a job ASAP, save up money, and get her to do the same. When you can afford it, you two should get an apartment together or something. Once you and her are both 18 there's not shit they can do besides kick you out for seeing each other.
That would just make things worse, most likely they wouldn't even believe him and they would trust him even less for trying to lie about it. I honestly don't see what the problem is if they're using protection, they're both 17 so it's legal, parents are just stupid.
Sure you don't see a problem. However, they are parents and parents think about things in an entirely seperate fashion. He's not in a position to raise a family if an accident were to occur. He would have to limit his potential and perhaps lower his lifetime earnings by a signifigant percentage. That, in itself, would make the rest of his life harder .
Also there's the whole social aspect. Although it's not as much of a taboo thing now, when they were growing up it probably meant you were a slut if you were pregnant at a young age. If they're a religious group they don't want their son's sins coming out to haunt them.
Which is why I said "I honestly don't see what the problem is if they're using protection." There are grown couples that can't afford a kid that have protected sex and there's no problem with that, there shouldn't be a problem with them doing the same thing at 17. If they are being safe, that's the best they can do besides not doing anything at all and that's all that can be expected of them. Once me and Nikki get our own place in a couple of months, I can assure you that we aren't going to wait until we are financially able to take care of a kid before we have sex.
It may be unrealistic but it's the truth. Even with preparation accidents do occur. Anyways, not saying that's what I recommend or anything I was just giving a less popular point-of-view .
I say wait it out for a bit and then see where it goes. Trying to get them to change their minds so soon is not a good idea. Let it dial down a few then casual ask to go to a movie with her. Try and stay public places, where you wont be having sex, and they will regain some trust. Soon, have her come over while your parents are home and soon enough, they will leave you too alone.
wow got alot of replies, well unfortunetly is wasnt protected sex. we have used protection but was so redundent seeing as your parents are always so close to walking in on you (and no thats not how they found out). so just the good ol` pull out mthod has worked for me. for over 2years no scares or nothing. i guess it would be best idea to start saving up money. although we are both in school its almost out and ima switch to full-time for summer and save up everything i can.
i asked my dad why he and my mom had sex when they were younger, he said he dont know. but my answer of i love her and i wanted to share this experience with her wasnt better then idk. parents dont make sence. they provide the opp and dont talk about it. if you want kids to have protected sex you have to allow them to feel safe enough to take the time to slip on a condom. idk i think it shouldnt be a big deal at all considering we are both less then a year from bring 18 and bring adults. hell we waiting longer then they did.
Wow you're a retard. You do know that copper's gland secretions have higher concentrations of sperm than semen, right? That comes out before you orgasm. Yea ...you're really lucky and she may even be pregnant right now and you don't know.
I don't get how people today can even believe that pulling out before having an orgasm prevents pregnancy...
Idiot. I'm siding with the parents on this one. If you're not going to have protected sex before marriage...or even before you're capable of raising a child at all, then you shouldn't be having sex. Period.
what would you do?
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