Is this right or wrong or...

I think it's all a load of crap.

Sure it is as are many "norms."

yea, but think about it... if i cried when i was upset about it all, and im around her... it would make her feel bad, she dosent want to feel bad, so she's not going to want to be around me if i make her feel bad

If she doesn't want to be around you for showing your emotions then f her :P.

there is a difference between crying and showing your emotions... if you cry all the time, its straight up annoying

Like my sisters' ex. Jesus, I think that man had a pair of ovaries...

exactly, i feel like i can show i care in other ways... by saying so, writing it, the way i move and such... if i let myself cry ill let myself lose control and just act a fool

Aah. It's necessary on occasions, though. You don't wanna go through life as an emotionless zombie. Trust me, it doesn't feel very good.