Weekends....

Eh, he has no reason to not trust me. And i've made the decision to trust him again...?

I see where he could be upset, but if i wanted something else, i'd have it and leave him...just because HE has taken up an opportunity doesn't mean I would.

I almost read that as 'he has no reason to trust me' Ha. Sounds to me like Kaneda had a normal guy reaction.

Yea, I'd have been pissed if I saw that shit on my girl's phone. If that guy replied "no" it was probably because you told him "no" first. A guy doesn't ask a girl that question unless he's been her best friend for 10 years and she's like his sister and just having innocent conversation or he's trying to get in her pants. It doesn't seem like he's brother-like material to you so I'd say the latter. If my girl went out drinking with a guy who wasn't gay I'd have been pretty jealous too.

A lot of experts debate on what effects members of the opposite sex being friends with in a relationship have. Pretty much -- if you feel like you have a special relationship with a guy that's not your boyfriend then that can lead to affairs. Soon you'll feel like "he knows me so well and he's so nice to me ...if I got with him he'd treat me better" and bullshit like that if you and Kaneda have a hard time =P. I've seen it happen a thousand times.

That's what makes TV shows dramatic.

Hit the nail on the head.

I disagree, but hey, you guys obviously don't have trust in women. Neither do i, but i know myself and I wouldn't do that, especailly in my situation.

Well hopefully you guys can work out your little problems, it'd be much better for the both of you in the long run....


Me and my girl have planned already that if we're going to even go out anywhere we'd end up going with each other.

Yea, and in a few mins i could get a txt saying he wants to move out...life changes, and if i get the desire to "get" with anyone else kaneda and i will work something else out.

I disagree, but hey, you guys obviously don't have trust in women. Neither do i, but i know myself and I wouldn't do that, especailly in my situation.

I'm not entirely a traditionalist but I think that if my girl wanted to go out, drink, and dance then I better be with her or she better be dancing with her girlfriends and not random guys. Otherwise that relationship probably would not last too long. It's asking for trouble and it's a nice red flag. Whether or not you -know- you're going to do something, it's not right for you to go out and do that when it bothers your signifigant other with GOOD REASON.

You're with the guy that cheated on you. That sucks. But if you want a relationship to work you can't hold grudges because that's not how a relationship should be. You do what you want and enjoy the arguments that ensue because I'll have to agree with Kaneda on this one. He can be quite a dick but he has very sound reasoning for this. Relationships involve comprimises and you know you can do something fun that doesn't have to involve the company of some dumbass calling you and asking you if you'd cheat or not ...haha.

I'm not entirely a traditionalist but I think that if my girl wanted to go out, drink, and dance then I better be with her or she better be dancing with her girlfriends and not random guys. Otherwise that relationship probably would not last too long. It's asking for trouble and it's a nice red flag. Whether or not you -know- you're going to do something, it's not right for you to go out and do that when it bothers your signifigant other with GOOD REASON. You're with the guy that cheated on you. That sucks. But if you want a relationship to work you can't hold grudges because that's not how a relationship should be. You do what you want and enjoy the arguments that ensue because I'll have to agree with Kaneda on this one. He can be quite a dick but he has very sound reasoning for this. Relationships involve comprimises and you know you can do something fun that doesn't have to involve the company of some dumbass calling you and asking you if you'd cheat or not ...haha.

Ok, you know such little about the situation. I would LOVE to have Kaneda come out with me. He hates the club scene unless he's with someone else. he's never even tried to go w.me, and believe me I have BEGGED him! It's not a random guy, and he knows i have boundries and limits. Yes dance, No grabbing or other activities.

You don't know what our conversation was about and we were talking about relationships going wrong when that came up.

AND, it seems to me that you guys are forgetting a VERY important part to this story, Kaneda told me he wanted to move out and end it earlier that day...and i STILL didn't fuck someone else. Kaneda hasn't even argued a point here so how are you with him? Yea, he was upset when he found out a guy ended up coming...but he's gone to softball-drinks with girls he works with, where's the difference, honostly?

This thread was supposed to be about weekends. Kaneda and I already talked about what happened and everything.